It's not just a controversial film of the 1970's, by Ang Lee. It follows two dysfuntional families over a the Thanksgiving break one year. The two couples are screwed up with an affair at the middle of it. I didn't mean this to be a review. I just wanted the reader to understand where I am coming from. An ice storm actually hits during the last part of the movie. Elijah Wood of LOTR fame plays one of the couples son's. Tobey Macguire is another. Wood is out running around during the storm when a power pole falls down and arcs into the guardrail he is sitting on. He is electrocuted.
They show the aftermath of the death of Wood. I had seen the movie before but had forgotten that Wood's had a younger brother in the movie. It was very tough witnessing the younger brother facing his older brothers death.
I wrote recently about my nephews suicide. My daughter visited this weekend to celebrate Christmas. She went to the funeral last Saturday for him. I gently brought up the subject. We talked a long time with her guiding the conversation. I was supportive and understanding. I can't imagine how hard it's for her at age 11. She was only six years apart from her cousin. We talked about my brother who committed suicide.
I volunteered to her that I have known six people now who have committed suicide. They were three relatives and three friends. My daughter and I talked about each person and their circumstances. I told her I loved her very much. I let her know that anytime she wanted to talk about Johnny[her cousin] or anything it was all right. I want to her be able to express her feelings normally and not be repressed like I was.
Can you imagine being in a household where a child dies and everyone pretends like it never happened. They pretend like the child never existed unless an outside party brings up the subject. I grew up in this household.
peace
dumbdavid
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